Posts made in February, 2014

Shape Magazine: How to Deal with His Most Embarrassing Sexual Issues

Posted by on Feb 20, 2014 in Featured | 0 comments

Shape Magazine: How to Deal with His Most Embarrassing Sexual Issues

How to Deal with His Most Embarrassing Sexual Issues Performance problems don’t have to extinguish the flames. Next time he suffers equipment failure, help him so you both end the night on a high note By Holly C. Corbett It’s frustrating when you’re pumped up about a steamy sack session with your guy, and then he goes limp or climaxes in record speed. You’re left considering heading to the bathroom to pull out your vibe, while he’s dealing with a serious ego blow. Sure, talking about his bedroom problems can be incredibly awkward, but for the sake of your relationship—and for maximum personal pleasure—it’s worth it. Focusing on intimacy makes you feel more connected, both inside the bedroom and out, says Bill Bercaw, a sex therapist and coauthor (with wife Ginger) of the upcoming From the Living Room to the Bedroom: The Modern Couple’s Guide to Sexual Abundance and Lasting Intimacy (April 2014). Working through these situations will help you turn a mortifying moment into a mind-blowing sex life. 5 of 5 His Sex Fantasy Makes You Uncomfortable Few things are more awkward than when your guy makes like Adam from HBO’s Girls and asks you to do kinky things, like pretending to be an underage girl. If he springs an idea that feels degrading or makes you uncomfortable, wait a second, Ginger recommends. “It’s better to say you don’t want to embarrass him but you’re not comfortable than to go through with it in the moment and feel bad afterward.” alking about fantasies before playing them out is key. Because it’s a risk to share what’s going on inside your head, that shared vulnerability can bring you closer. Of course talking doesn’t mean you have to play out the fantasy, but you may consider meeting in the middle. “It’s okay if you’re not interested in public sex, but you might come up with a creative way to do part of it,” Ginger says, “like doing it in your backyard in the dark instead.” It’s frustrating when you’re pumped up about a steamy sack session with your guy, and then he goes limp or climaxes in record speed. You’re left considering heading to the bathroom to pull out your vibe, while he’s dealing with a serious ego blow. Sure, talking about his bedroom problems can be incredibly awkward, but for the sake of your relationship—and for maximum personal pleasure—it’s worth it. Focusing on intimacy makes you feel more connected, both inside the bedroom and out, says Bill Bercaw, a sex therapist and coauthor (with wife Ginger) of the upcoming From the Living Room to the Bedroom: The Modern Couple’s Guide to Sexual Abundance and Lasting Intimacy (April 2014). Working through these situations will help you turn a mortifying moment into a mind-blowing sex life. 4 of 5 He Suffers Low Libido “The best kept sex secret in America is male low desire,” Ginger says. “Women are ashamed to talk about it because they feel inadequate, and men also feel ashamed out of fear that they’re not keeping up with their lover’s expectations.” Rather than letting resentment and sexual frustration build, pick a time outside the bedroom so he’ll feel less defensive and be direct: Say you notice that you’re out of sync in terms of how often you want to do it, then ask him how you can get more on the same page. “Many of us think we shouldn’t have to talk about sex because we want it to work naturally, but talking about it is the only way to improve your sex life,” Ginger says. [Tweet this tip!] “Tell him you love making love to him and want to find a number or a range that you both can agree upon. Flexibility is key, so say you’re shooting for two to three times a week, with the lower number being the minimum of what you’re okay with and the max number being an excellent week.” 3 of 5 He Can’t Get or Keep it Up Don’t take it personally if he goes soft. “Many women feel inadequate or rejected when their man can’t get it up, but...

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Valentine’s Day – Cynic or Romantic

Posted by on Feb 10, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

Valentine’s Day – Cynic or Romantic

Go ahead… tell us you haven’t had even one cynical, Valentine’s Day-related thought pass through your mind today. Check your Facebook feed lately? Whether you’re a skeptic or you actually believe this is THE single, most romantic day of the year, Valentine’s Day offers a great chance to raise a glass with your sweetheart.  Here are some possibilities (with a little something for everyone!): “To us and our love- the love that has endured through all the changes and challenges life has thrown at us.”(and there would be a few less challenges if you picked up your socks and underwear every now and then). “To giving our best to each other and to giving the benefit of the doubt when we fall short of that intention.”  (and by “best” I don’t mean grunting “Uh-huh” and “Mmm-Hmm” when I’m trying to talk with you about my day) “To the memories we’ve created and to all of the memorable times ahead of us.”  (but let’s hope for at least one fewer ER memory this year, OK?) “To finding strength in the security of a true partner with whom to face the many unknown challenges ahead and to celebrate the many joys.” (and for the record, I’m not counting it as a challenge the next time you freak out about losing your keys when they are in your jacket pocket… or a joy when you find them!!!) “To you, the love of my life – may you feel as deeply loved as you love me.”(and to ME, the one putting on a smiling face after buying criminally marked up flowers and chocolate and sitting in a cramped restaurant eating off a criminally marked-up, heart-shaped “Special Valentine’s Menu.” If today doesn’t prove I love you, I don’t know what will!!!) *Still looking for a last-minute Valentine’s gift? http://LivingRoomtoBedroom.pubslush.com (Because nothing says “Happy Valentines Day” like the promise of a book that will arrive in...

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